Coffee Chat Monday: My Word of the Year
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about how this is my third year choosing a word for the year to focus on throughout the year. The first year I chose the word positive. Last year I chose the word thrive. But this year the word choose me. That first year I started out really strong. I added quotes about staying positive, the glass half full, being mindful, and anything that might be related to being positive. The more I used the word or a related word the more mindful I was. By the end of the year, I realized it was all about being more intentional. When I slacked off and didn’t write down the word, a quote, was mindful in my everyday life about being positive, staying positive, finding something positive in even the darkest of days/times/events/etc, then the negative things like self doubt, fear, anxiety, etc. would creep back in.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s been a few years since I chose the word positive and yet there are times when I still have moments of self doubt, fear, anxiety, but I’m a much more positive person now. I look at the glass as refillable–to me it’s not about whether or not it’s half full or half empty, but that it’s refillable that matters (especially when it comes to my cup of coffee or my glass of ice water on a hot summer day here in humid South Carolina).
That first year there were times when I forgot my word. Yep, that’s right. When I was so focused on manifesting positivism in my life that I forgot it was because it was my word of the year… being mindful of the positive things, changing my attitude and being intentional about the “refillable glass” became a habit. I’d never really been a “negative Nancy” but there were too many instances when I’d let my anxiety rule and I’d focused on the negative instead of the positive. Last year I thrived in some ways, but in other ways I slacked off. And the majority of the reasons I slacked off had to do with procrastination, fear, doubts, anxiety–not being brave enough to do things, to try things, to get out there and reach for the stars.
But I knew at the end of December, after my Dad’s death and almost losing my Mom within 24 hours back in October, that my word for 2018 had to be special. It had to be something that would become not only an intentional habit, but would aid me in healing, the grief, and with life. Life… that was the key. What did I need to work on? Well as I was talking about my loss and the impact my Dad had on my life there were certain things that kept resounding over and over in my head, in conversations–My Dad believed in me. He told me more times than I can remember that I could do anything I put my mind to. That I was brave, strong, smart, passionate, and a survivor… I was so much more than I gave myself credit for. That I am much stronger than I seem and I would need all of that strength to help me: to help me with my Mom, to be a rock for my family and myself, to endure the loss and grief… And he was right.
You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think.
The word brave chose me… before 2017 was over I already knew my word, felt it in my gut, in my heart. I ended 2017 by being brave, taking leaps of faith, and have continued to do so in 2018. But it’s not always easy. Some days are harder than others. I have a few tips that might help you keep your word of the year in the forefront of your mind.
- Add a charm to your Traveler’s Notebook, Filofax, Hobonichi cover, necklace, bracelet, or whatever else you would like.
- Make a vision board.
- Decorate a page in your journal or planner, or both, with the word; add stickers, quotes, drawings, anything you like that has to do with your word (a mini vision board).
- If you like lists, then create a page of words in list format that are connected to your word for the year.
- Write a quote each month, week, day that has to do with your word of the year.
- But the most important thing to me that helps, is to just be mindful everyday of ways that you can put your word into practice.
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